Kendra's Favorite Things: 08.12

I read a blog post on The Daily Love the other day about how in order to get through something the most effective way to do so is to be patient and just let the situation and/or the feelings just run their course. Makes perfect sense doesn't it? However, it is practicing this that is the hard part, and turning it into a habit that seems nearly impossible for someone like me who thrives on immediate gratification and solving problems right away. The cold hard truth is, sometimes that is just not effective, or even possible.

I do feel that with a little discipline this process can become a habit for even the most stubborn of souls (ME) and I'm determined to find out how! So, in not so true Kendra fashion, I am going to break this learned process down one piece at a time and try to tackle it in stages rather than all at once.

The first stage that I am going to focus on is literally becoming more comfortable with my feelings, and forcing myself to sit with them for at least 4-8 hours before taking ANY action on them. This means if an uncomfortable feeling arises I must teach myself how to let it soak into myself, breathe it in, see how it feels, see where it affects me and THINK before I make the next step. Obviously if this particular feeling arises while I am in the presence of someone else or during a conversation I will have to learn how to address my need and desire to walk away from the situation for the necessary amount of time in a positive and polite manner and then let the process begin.

The next step will be learning how to address the proper time and place for communication (if necessary) and learning how to effectively communicate my feelings after I've let them settle. But first things first, let's just get good at digesting the feelings first and then we can move on from there.

It is NOT going to be easy (especially for a girl like me) but I'm willing to go into this self reflection in order to better my communication skills along with my overal happiness!