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Tory Burch: Enter "TBSPRING" for discount at checkout
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Tory Burch: Enter "TBSPRING" for discount at checkout
Nordstrom: No code necessary (discount is on shoes only)
Beer Can Wednesdays
From now through Labor Day you can find me sailing on Wednesday evenings! I am proud to be the newest member of the Kelmara Beer Can Series Racing Team. We do a regatta race from the Coronado Yacht Club every week, and so far we have always been "first in our class" or as the team will say "WINNING!!" I can tell there are many fun times to come throughout this Summer. Although there's definitely beer involved (it's not called a beer can race for nothing) it certainly still is a lot of work, we tack and jive and do all the things typical yachtsmen and women do. We work up our appetite for our Picnic at the Yacht Club afterwards, that's for certain. It's been so great to be able to spend more time with Stacy, Jeff and our fearless leader Fran. An added bonus that everyone else on the team is pretty awesome too. Pretty sure we'll be on our way to America's Cup in no time. Life is good!
Week #2 Collage
God Bless America!
For reals?
Don't let YOU hold YOU back!!
It's a sad thing that our society tends to look down upon people that appear to be suffering or grieving about something. Therapy is often times looked at as a sign of weakness. Well, not in my household! Granted, I may be a little bit too open about my struggles but it is therapeutic for me, and if it helps just one other person feel better about something they are going through, or less alone, than I'm winning in my book.
The truth is, we are all struggling, we are all suffering, and we are all grieving about one thing or another. Life is difficult right now, just look at what's going on in the world. Sadly, you won't have to look too far to see someone in a worse condition than you are. I often think about the parents and community of Sandy Hook, the families of Boston Marathon participants, or the homeless people I see on the street every single day. Their pain is so real, so fresh and so deep. And quite possibly the saddest part of all is that most people don't know how to be receptive of their pain, or "deal" with it. Most people just bury it away for it to haunt them in the future.
If I haven't talked about Sami yet, I definitely SHOULD have. She deserves a month of blog posts all on her own for the amount that she has been able to help me in the year I've been seeing her. If you can't tell by recent blog posts I'm going through a very difficult time right now. But the beautiful part about THIS pain is that I am actually learning how to sit with it, recognize it and learn from it so I can actually move on from it. I wouldn't have been able to do this without the work that I've done with Sami. She has taught me how to recognize and rise above the learned patterns I've fallen into throughout my life, that nobody else is responsible for my own "stuff" but me, and that what other people are going through has nothing to do with me. What a freeing feeling she has been able to help me recognize within myself. Don't get me wrong, I slip up and fall into my old ways from time to time.. but I handle those situations differently and I'm able to recover from them faster.
The "light-bulb" with all of this is that the only person that was holding me back from moving into this sort of growth over the years was really... ME. And nobody else, but me. I could waste time and be mad at myself and hold a grudge, but instead I've decided to take this new found responsibility and "kick it into high gear" (that's another Kendra-ism). Love yourself, love your life.
"The person in life that you will always be with the most, is yourself. Because even when you are with others, you are still with yourself, too! When you wake up in the morning, you are with yourself, laying in bed at night you are with yourself, walking down the street in the sunlight you are with yourself.What kind of person do you want to walk down the street with? What kind of person do you want to wake up in the morning with? What kind of person do you want to see at the end of the day before you fall asleep? Because that person is yourself, and it's your responsibility to be that person you want to be with. I know I want to spend my life with a person who knows how to let things go, who's not full of hate, who's able to smile and be carefree. So that's who I have to be."
— C. JoyBell C.
The truth is, we are all struggling, we are all suffering, and we are all grieving about one thing or another. Life is difficult right now, just look at what's going on in the world. Sadly, you won't have to look too far to see someone in a worse condition than you are. I often think about the parents and community of Sandy Hook, the families of Boston Marathon participants, or the homeless people I see on the street every single day. Their pain is so real, so fresh and so deep. And quite possibly the saddest part of all is that most people don't know how to be receptive of their pain, or "deal" with it. Most people just bury it away for it to haunt them in the future.
If I haven't talked about Sami yet, I definitely SHOULD have. She deserves a month of blog posts all on her own for the amount that she has been able to help me in the year I've been seeing her. If you can't tell by recent blog posts I'm going through a very difficult time right now. But the beautiful part about THIS pain is that I am actually learning how to sit with it, recognize it and learn from it so I can actually move on from it. I wouldn't have been able to do this without the work that I've done with Sami. She has taught me how to recognize and rise above the learned patterns I've fallen into throughout my life, that nobody else is responsible for my own "stuff" but me, and that what other people are going through has nothing to do with me. What a freeing feeling she has been able to help me recognize within myself. Don't get me wrong, I slip up and fall into my old ways from time to time.. but I handle those situations differently and I'm able to recover from them faster.
The "light-bulb" with all of this is that the only person that was holding me back from moving into this sort of growth over the years was really... ME. And nobody else, but me. I could waste time and be mad at myself and hold a grudge, but instead I've decided to take this new found responsibility and "kick it into high gear" (that's another Kendra-ism). Love yourself, love your life.
"The person in life that you will always be with the most, is yourself. Because even when you are with others, you are still with yourself, too! When you wake up in the morning, you are with yourself, laying in bed at night you are with yourself, walking down the street in the sunlight you are with yourself.What kind of person do you want to walk down the street with? What kind of person do you want to wake up in the morning with? What kind of person do you want to see at the end of the day before you fall asleep? Because that person is yourself, and it's your responsibility to be that person you want to be with. I know I want to spend my life with a person who knows how to let things go, who's not full of hate, who's able to smile and be carefree. So that's who I have to be."
— C. JoyBell C.
How big is your cup?
A friend from work was telling me a story the other day and it got
me to thinking about how our tolerance for pain, love, life changes, and
everything in between gets bigger as we experience more life. It brought me back to times throughout my
life when I had a feeling such as "I'll never love this much again"
and never being able to listen to anyone who tried to console me or assure me
that the feeling would ultimately go away.
I was recently getting dropped off to the airport and saw a young
high school or college couple embracing as they were saying their spring break
goodbyes. The pain they were both feeling was so evident and it looked as if they
had been crying all day with the doom of saying goodbye looming over them. I
remember thinking to myself "it's all gonna be fine... someday you'll
really know what heartbreak feels like."
But as I grabbed my bag and walked passed them it dawned on me
that that's all the love and heartbreak they know through this point in their
lives, and how insensitive of me to discount what they are going through.
The story my friend was telling me was one that her favorite
teacher in high school told her many years ago. He used a cup for the analogy
and spoke to the fact that when we are young, our cups are quite small so they
get filled up quickly with emotions of love, pain, joy or anything else that
comes our way. All we can physically handle is what will fit into our cup. As we grow older our cup grows, so our ability to process and
handle life grows with it. Our ability to love grows deeper along with our
threshold for pain. As we move through the many cups of our lives they begin to
overflow, which simply means that we’ve outgrown our cup and must move on to a
larger version so we can love even deeper and expose ourselves to the greater
risks that are associated with that.
This spoke to me in so many ways, but the most important thing I
took away from it is this; what can we all do to be more compassionate towards each other and the size of each other’s cups? If we show compassion and understanding
to each other through difficult times eventually everyone’s cups will grow even
larger and our ability to really LIVE and love will grow even deeper. How nice would a world be
where everyone was allowing each other and themselves to grow into the big
gulps they are meant to handle?
I am thankful for my life and the variety of cups I've been lucky enough to experience throughout it. While each growth period may be associated with a certain amount of pain and suffering each one has given me a wonderful opportunity to grow even deeper in love both for myself and for others, and that has been the greatest gift of all!
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