Kendra's Favorite Things: 07.13

Journey to the Heart

A few weeks ago I stepped onto my porch to see a package addressed to "Daddy" Dwyer, and I knew it could only be from a very select few college friends that are still hell bent on calling me my ridiculously wonderful nickname. This parcel came from my particularly thoughtful and generous friend Shannon who had stayed with me for a few days the week prior. The amazon gift note mentioned that her favorite Yoga instructor had given this same book to her a few years back and she thought it would be very helpful for me right now. I couldn't agree with her more. The book is called Journey to The Heart by Melody Beattie and is full of daily meditations for each day of the year. Melody wrote this book during a long journey throughout the country after losing her son. If you're not into self growth and exploration you probably won't benefit from this book. But if you're looking for a quick daily dose of re-centering I think you would really enjoy this. It's an easy read each day, the entries are uplifting and they will help remind you to be grateful for the things you have and to be compassionate with yourself above everything else. See one example below of a daily excerpt below.

July 29th: What is Your Handicap?

"What's your handicap? the golfer asked his partner. "My childhood." said is companion.

Some handicaps are physical, certain limitations placed on our bodies. Other handicaps are emotional, burdens of heartache from sad or abusive childhoods. Others may be dealing with current issues- perhaps facing a terminal illness or grieving an irreparable loss.

After losing my son, I found myself at a point where I simply could no longer stand the agony of waiting for my pain to disappear. I knew that all my life I would miss him, and I became absolutely despondent. There is no way out of this, I thought. I'm spending my life waiting for this pain to disappear so I can begin living my life again. But the pain never will disappear. And I'll never begin living my life again. That's when a gentle idea began to change my life.

I began to understand that I was living and working with a handicap. The loss would always be there. The pain and the heartache would always be present. I could accept that, treat it as a handicap, and within that framework go ahead and live my life once more. The moment I made that decision, my attitude and perspective changed. I was able to go on, able to move forward.

Many of us are living with handicaps. Some will change over time, but others won't. if that's the case, stop waiting for your handicap to disappear. Instead, decide to live with it. Work around it. Treat yourself with care, with gentleness. Allow yourself to feel and experience all the limitations and emotions of your present situation. Accept them. Let them be part of you, part of your experience.

Despite living with a handicap, go ahead and treat yourself to life.

-Melody Beattie, Journey to the Heart

We are all living with handicaps in our lives. A breakup, the loss of a job, not being happy with the way we look, being spread too thin at work; every one's handicaps are unique and important. Most of the time we are waiting for those to disappear so that we can be happy. The problem in that is that if we are always waiting for a circumstance to change in order to be happy, we will find something else that needs changing in order to be happy once the first circumstance changes, and so on and so on. What handicaps do you have that you can forgive yourself for and learn to live with happily?

Happy Birthday Kiki!!

Today is my absolutely amazing mother's birthday! If I had to choose just a few words to describe my mom they would be; sweet, thoughtful, caring, loving, kind, crafty, adorable, big hearted, amazing cook, creative, determined, and hands down the best mom on the planet. I am so lucky to have her... we all are. We celebrated last night with cupcakes, wine, sparklers and Aunt Jane... what more could a birthday girl ask for?

The one and only Kiki.

Housewarming Party

Although I've been in my new place for over 2 months I have been so busy with work, and traveling for bachelorette parties and weddings that I haven't had a chance to get a group of people over for a housewarming party. I was finally able to make that happen last night and it was so much fun! It's probably a good thing that only about 10 people were able to make it because I don't have much room for more!

I absolutely love getting friends together and I think that once everyone is together it is always appreciated. We all have busy schedules, but we have to take the time to nourish our friendships and slow down to appreciate the little moments in life that make everything worth while.

My back porch is my happy place.

Especially at night with the market lights turned on! Thanks Dad. :)

Not my traditional spread, but in a time crunch you have to improvise.

Trying to get more creative with my photo skills... nerd alert.

Stacy, Allison and Megan

Erin, Lindsay and Allie

Brant made a late night appearance!

Not having a dishwasher actually isn't so bad after all!

The Apple Tree

A family friend sent me the quote below a long time ago. My brother played baseball with her two sons and I have known their family since I was just a little tater tot. She raised her boys to treat girls like special prizes, and taught them that the right ones are not the easiest to find and that although they require more work to win over, that the end result will always be worth it. I love that!

Yes, I've been on a bit of a "girl power" rant lately and in the back of my mind Dr. Suess is reminding me "those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter." So there. My reminder of the day would be that although your stay at the top of the tree might be a little longer than if you were "low hanging fruit", it will always be worth it to wait for someone who's willing to roll their sleeves up and make the climb. Until then; enjoy the view!

One Daddy's Letter to His Little Girl... Grab the Kleenex!

My girlfriend Emily from work sent me this article and I thought it was just too sweet (and true) not to share. If this doesn't choke you up I might have to check your pulse. I am thankful to have an amazing Father who reminds me what type of guy I want to end up with, simply by the example he has set. However, our society has created a poisonous environment of endless messages telling "little ones" and "not so little ones" that we have to be, look, dress, act a certain way in order to get or keep a guy. I love the rampage that this particular Daddy is on to protect his little girl from believing that poison, and to remind her what she is worth. I have a feeling that we could all use this reminder from time to time. This article came to me at the perfect time, and I wanted to pass it along to you to remind you that you are worth more than you could ever imagine.

Dear Cutie-Pie,

Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”

It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.

And I got angry.

Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”

Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakable place that isn't rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)

If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in you.

Little One, I want to tell you about the boy who doesn't need to be kept interested, because he knows you are interesting:

I don’t care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table—as long as he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can’t stop looking.

I don’t care if he can’t play a bit of golf with me—as long as he can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and frustrating ways they are just like you.

I don’t care if he doesn't follow his wallet—as long as he follows his heart and it always leads him back to you.

I don’t care if he is strong—as long as he gives you the space to exercise the strength that is in your heart.

I couldn't care less how he votes—as long as he wakes up every morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of reverence in his heart.

I don’t care about the color of his skin—as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and vulnerability, and tenderness.

I don’t care if he was raised in this religion or that religion or no religion—as long as he was raised to value what is sacred and to know that every moment of life, and every moment of life with you, is deeply sacred.

In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and he and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most important thing in common:

You.

Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do to “keep him interested” is to be you.

Your eternally interested guy,
Daddy

Written by Dr. Kelly Flanigan

Original Article

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It's the most wonderful time of the year....

If Andy Williams' voice is ringing in your head right now than I've achieved my goal. It's Christmas in July... the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale!!! Woo hoo! Get ready to revamp your Fall staples. The sale began for Early Access today, but officially begins on Thursday July 18th. Some of my favorites from this year's collection are below. Enjoy your sneak peek and happy shopping!!

Joan & David is known for making

ultra high heels surprisingly comfortable.

This is their signature peep toe in suede.

Just perfect for Fall.

$109 during $169 after

Loving these stackable Kate Spade

costume bangles in spendidly bright pastels.

$85 during $128 after

Probably going to need these Sperry Top Sliders

for the rest of the sailing season.

Just LOVE the color!

$80 during $125 after

The. Most. Comfortable. Robe. Ever. Period.

Enough said. Barefoot Dreams.

$65 during $98 after

All you need for a quick transformation

from day to night this Fall is this Hinge tweed blazer.

Pair with a black pencil skirt

for work or jeans for a night on the town.

Loving the color, the cut and the leather trim.

$99 during $148 after

Kiehl's Midnight Recovery in a super-sized version.

This won't be available after the sale.

I can't say enough good things about this product.

Stock up to save cash, prevent aging,

and wake up to more radiant skin.

$120 for 3.4 oz (a $156 value)

These Corso Como riding boots are

the perfect color and cut for Fall.

Great paired with leggings, jeans or a dress.

$170 during $249 after

Favorite Lotion Ever!

Kiehl's Creme de Corps.

They only release this size during the

Anniversary Sale and around the Holidays.

While $75 for lotion may seem excessive

it has been a miracle worker for my

formerly sensitive and dry skin.

Plus the bottle will last you about 6 months.

Comes with a cute mini version also... bonus!

$75 (a $120 value)

Lulu Lemon called and they want their

overpriced see through yoga pants back.

I actually LOVE me some Lulu, but Zella has

become a close 2nd and much easier on the

bank account. These capri and full

length leggings have been released

in several different colors and patterns for the sale.

$29 during $44 after

The Vince Popover Top is one of my all time

favorite blouses for work or play.

Now is definitely the time to snag one

if you're going to bite the bullet.

$179 during $275 after

You can't go wrong with America's Best

Selling Face Wash; Purity by Philosophy.

Again, this is an exclusive size for the sale.

$50 (an $86 value)

I didn't forget about the men in our lives.

LOVING this BOSS blazer.

It's timeless and classic.

Any guy would like like a hunk in this.

$349 during $545 after

And for something a little bit more casual

(and budget friendly), run for a great price on

this 7 Diamonds short sleeve plaid staple.

$58 during $89 after

Home is where the Heart is

I've been in my new place for about 2 months now and I absolutely love it. Although "home" may not be the place that we spend the majority of our time (for me these days that would be at work) it is where our day usually begins and ends which can and should be the most peaceful and comforting parts of the day. That is exactly why it is so important that we feel comfortable in the place we settle into. Thanks to my amazing mother who has taught me so much about how to make a house feel like a home; I've been able to quickly transform my one bedroom beach cottage into a signature KLD abode. Every time I step through my door I feel a sense of peace come over me and I'm happy to be just where I am; home. With all the changes that have been going on in my life over the last year it literally is the perfect place for me right now; 550 square feet (which believe it or not is the largest place I've lived in on my own), close to work, an outdoor patio soon to be donned with market lights and outdoor furniture, and the added bonus of awesome neighbors and a nightly firework display (thank you Sea World). I've always lived by the motto "Mi Casa es su Casa" and this place has been allowing me to do what I love to do most with my friends; cook dinner for them and drink copious amounts of red wine together while we chat the night away. When Shannon came to visit from New York the first thing she said when she walked in was "You're not moving out of this place until a man drags you out of it." Now that's what I like to call a home sweet home.

A sneak peek to my very humble abode.

It wouldn't be a Dwyer household without some serious monogramming going on.

Welcome home!

The Blondel Wedding....

Oh what fun we had this past weekend for Melissa and Alex's wedding. When I stepped into the office this morning I told a co-worker of mine that there's a reason us ASU girls can't all live within close proximity to each other, it would plain and simple just be too dangerous. We spent the weekend just north of Los Angeles celebrating our always cherished and loved Melissa. With the majority of the rest of the guests being family, the ASU girls definitely brought the entertainment, late night belly-flops into the pool and all. I love my friends. That's all.