Stitched together with good intentions...
As I strive to become more patient I've learned something really interesting about myself.... I completely suck at being patient, ha. So, now that we have that out of the way, I will allow myself to move on and focus on the progress I've made in the last few weeks. I am grateful for some of the things I have learned about myself and for a greater sense of awareness as it's opening my eyes even further to some of the things that I need to be working on in order to make myself the best person I can be. I have learned that it is not necessary to get completely down on myself when I make a mistake, and that continuing to overanalyze and focus on the problem only gives strength and length to the life of the problem, whereas if I can just acknowledge it, feel it and come to some sort of resolution... it will get resolved faster and will be less likely to reoccur.
I've learned that we are all going to make mistakes and fall short of expectations, both our own and those of others, and it's not necessarily what we've done or not done, but how we handle the problem that can either make the situation better or worse. So if I can pass along one piece of advice for both myself and others it would be this; have compassion. If you can treat yourself and others with compassion and understanding it will make your life a lot better!
The Patient Path is the Fastest Way Through It
I read a blog post on The Daily Love the other day about how in order to get through something the most effective way to do so is to be patient and just let the situation and/or the feelings just run their course. Makes perfect sense doesn't it? However, it is practicing this that is the hard part, and turning it into a habit that seems nearly impossible for someone like me who thrives on immediate gratification and solving problems right away. The cold hard truth is, sometimes that is just not effective, or even possible.
I do feel that with a little discipline this process can become a habit for even the most stubborn of souls (ME) and I'm determined to find out how! So, in not so true Kendra fashion, I am going to break this learned process down one piece at a time and try to tackle it in stages rather than all at once.
The first stage that I am going to focus on is literally becoming more comfortable with my feelings, and forcing myself to sit with them for at least 4-8 hours before taking ANY action on them. This means if an uncomfortable feeling arises I must teach myself how to let it soak into myself, breathe it in, see how it feels, see where it affects me and THINK before I make the next step. Obviously if this particular feeling arises while I am in the presence of someone else or during a conversation I will have to learn how to address my need and desire to walk away from the situation for the necessary amount of time in a positive and polite manner and then let the process begin.
The next step will be learning how to address the proper time and place for communication (if necessary) and learning how to effectively communicate my feelings after I've let them settle. But first things first, let's just get good at digesting the feelings first and then we can move on from there.
It is NOT going to be easy (especially for a girl like me) but I'm willing to go into this self reflection in order to better my communication skills along with my overal happiness!
I do feel that with a little discipline this process can become a habit for even the most stubborn of souls (ME) and I'm determined to find out how! So, in not so true Kendra fashion, I am going to break this learned process down one piece at a time and try to tackle it in stages rather than all at once.
The first stage that I am going to focus on is literally becoming more comfortable with my feelings, and forcing myself to sit with them for at least 4-8 hours before taking ANY action on them. This means if an uncomfortable feeling arises I must teach myself how to let it soak into myself, breathe it in, see how it feels, see where it affects me and THINK before I make the next step. Obviously if this particular feeling arises while I am in the presence of someone else or during a conversation I will have to learn how to address my need and desire to walk away from the situation for the necessary amount of time in a positive and polite manner and then let the process begin.
The next step will be learning how to address the proper time and place for communication (if necessary) and learning how to effectively communicate my feelings after I've let them settle. But first things first, let's just get good at digesting the feelings first and then we can move on from there.
It is NOT going to be easy (especially for a girl like me) but I'm willing to go into this self reflection in order to better my communication skills along with my overal happiness!
Style Lounge Salon!!
My roommate just opened up a new salon downtown and I'm so excited!!!!! Check out some of the photos and like her page on Facebook for more information or to book your appointment!!
Style Lounge Salon
540 6th Ave.
San Diego, CA 92101
styleloungesalon@gmail.com
(619) 501-6821
Style Lounge Salon
540 6th Ave.
San Diego, CA 92101
styleloungesalon@gmail.com
(619) 501-6821
Be Silly!
Most of us would be upset if we were accused of being ‘silly.’ But the word ‘silly’ comes from the old English word ‘selig,’ and its literal definition is ‘to be blessed, happy, healthy and prosperous.
— Zig Ziglar
Natalie's Bridal Shower!!!
The shower was definitely a success! It was so wonderful to get everyone together and seeing Natalie so happy made my week. :) Enjoy the pics from her special day. A huge thanks to Natalie's Mom, Stepmom Linda, sister Emily, Randi, my Mom and Pinterest for helping to make this day so special!
Lots of flowers!
Mason Jars for "The Natalie"
"The Natalie"... it went down a little too smoothly!
The Bar
A little burlap to hide the TV and pin lots of pics of Nat & Brent.
N+B=Love Sweet Love
Everyone left their 2 cents for the Bride.
"Just like Natalie... a sweet treat."
My advice, and yes I stole this from a country song...
Watch out!
Gettin' Hitched
Eat, Drink and be Married
Me and the Beautiful Bride
Show us your boots!
:)
A fun little game we played... Natalie and Brent know each other pretty well!
She looks so happy.
So sweet.
Happy
The whole gang
Kick up your boots!
Sassy!
Mom and her girls
And of course, the groom to sweep away all the presents! Thanks for getting married guys... can't wait for your special day! LOVE YOU!
Jason Mraz- Everything is Sound
Heard this song in the car today and TOTALLY rocked out to it!
He is coming to San Diego in September and I can't wait to see him, enjoy!
He is coming to San Diego in September and I can't wait to see him, enjoy!
Eat, Drink & Be Married
Putting all the finishing touches together for Natalie's Bridal Shower and I can barely even sit down because I'm so excited for tomorrow. The flowers are cut, the ingredients are bought and the bows are tied. Can't wait for a fun day! Here's the signature cocktail for tomorrow's fun...
"The Natalie"
-2 parts sweet
-1 part sassy
-always refreshing...
"The Natalie"
1 can frozen raspberry lemonade concentrate
1 can frozen limeade concentrate
6 cans of light beer (I use Michelob Golden Draft but Koors Light or Bud Light would work great as well)
1/2 can vodka (give or take)
1 lemon cut into slices
1 lime cut into slices or wedges
1 cup fresh raspberries
Ice
Combine the concentrates, beer and vodka in a large container. Place the lemons, limes and raspberries on top. They should float. I add a few cubes of ice as well.
Serve on top of lots of ice. Garnish with additional lemon, lime and raspberries.
Enjoy!
Top Ten Rules for Being Human
Rule One - You will receive a body. Whether you love it or hate it, it's yours for life, so accept it. What counts is what's inside.
Rule Two - You will be presented with lessons. Life is a constant learning experience, which every day provides opportunities for you to learn more. These lessons are specific to you, and learning them 'is the key to discovering and fulfilling the meaning and relevance of your own life'.
Rule Three - There are no mistakes, only lessons. Your development towards wisdom is a process of experimentation, trial and error, so it's inevitable things will not always go to plan or turn out how you'd want. Compassion is the remedy for harsh judgment - of ourselves and others. Forgiveness is not only divine - it's also 'the act of erasing an emotional debt'. Behaving ethically, with integrity, and with humour - especially the ability to laugh at yourself and your own mishaps - are central to the perspective that 'mistakes' are simply lessons we must learn.
Rule Four - The lesson is repeated until learned. Lessons repeat until learned. What manifest as problems and challenges, irritations and frustrations are more lessons - they will repeat until you see them as such and learn from them. Your own awareness and your ability to change are requisites of executing this rule. Also fundamental is the acceptance that you are not a victim of fate or circumstance - 'causality' must be acknowledged; that is to say: things happen to you because of how you are and what you do. To blame anyone or anything else for your misfortunes is an escape and a denial; you yourself are responsible for you, and what happens to you. Patience is required - change doesn't happen overnight, so give change time to happen.
Rule Five - Learning does not end. While you are alive there are always lessons to be learned. Surrender to the 'rhythm of life', don't struggle against it. Commit to the process of constant learning and change - be humble enough to always acknowledge your own weaknesses, and be flexible enough to adapt from what you may be accustomed to, because rigidity will deny you the freedom of new possibilities.
Rule Six - "There" is no better than "here". The other side of the hill may be greener than your own, but being there is not the key to endless happiness. Be grateful for and enjoy what you have, and where you are on your journey. Appreciate the abundance of what's good in your life, rather than measure and amass things that do not actually lead to happiness. Living in the present helps you attain peace.
Rule Seven - Others are only mirrors of you. You love or hate something about another person according to what love or hate about yourself. Be tolerant; accept others as they are, and strive for clarity of self-awareness; strive to truly understand and have an objective perception of your own self, your thoughts and feelings. Negative experiences are opportunities to heal the wounds that you carry. Support others, and by doing so you support yourself. Where you are unable to support others it is a sign that you are not adequately attending to your own needs.
Rule Eight - What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. Take responsibility for yourself. Learn to let go when you cannot change things. Don't get angry about things - bitter memories clutter your mind. Courage resides in all of us - use it when you need to do what's right for you. We all possess a strong natural power and adventurous spirit, which you should draw on to embrace what lies ahead.
Rule Nine - Your answers lie inside of you. Trust your instincts and your innermost feelings, whether you hear them as a little voice or a flash of inspiration. Listen to feelings as well as sounds. Look, listen, and trust. Draw on your natural inspiration.
Rule Ten - You will forget all this at birth. We are all born with all of these capabilities - our early experiences lead us into a physical world, away from our spiritual selves, so that we become doubtful, cynical and lacking belief and confidence. The ten Rules are not commandments, they are universal truths that apply to us all. When you lose your way, call upon them. Have faith in the strength of your spirit. Aspire to be wise - wisdom the ultimate path of your life, and it knows no limits other than those you impose on yourself.
Showers, and Bachelorettes and Weddings, Oh My!
Tis the season! This year I have 3 close friends getting married and I could not be happier for each of them. Looking forward to the start of these celebrations this weekend with Natalie's Bridal Shower. The party continues with the Bachelorettes and then the weddings in September and October. I just spent the last few minutes re-watching the amazing video that Nick made after the proposal. It made me cry like a little baby because I'm so happy for them. Love is in the air, and so are some seriously FUN weekends ahead over the next few months! YAY!! Click below to watch the video.
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